Hi – it’s been a hot minute since I’ve posted because I’ve been very busy adulting, while simultaneously avoiding adulting. It’s honestly a true talent.

As I was scrolling through Facebook (don’t ask me why I still do this, because I’m honestly not sure) I’m seeing everyone getting engaged and buying houses and having babies, which are all great life milestones. But I felt like I needed to write this for anyone who needs to hear it – I’m going to be 26 in a few days and I honestly do not have any of my shit together. In fact, I don’t plan on having my shit together anytime soon because @GennaRamey and I made a pact that we both agree to stay somewhat scrambling to make the other feel better because #friendship.

Adulting has been coming in HOT lately with this being the year we’re off our parents insurance, there are just so many things to be done. I’ve recently just bought TSA precheck (didn’t even know this was a thing until recently), opened up a new bank account after being hacked and even set up Identity Theft since said hacking. And honestly, this all is annoying because by the time I’m even able to catch my breath, it’s going to be April and I’ll have to file my damn taxes.

With the new year approaching, I think this is a perfect time to acknowledge how important it is to not compare yourself while scrolling on social media. Everyone is at different points in their lives and just because Susan was promoted at her job or Billy is engaged and you’re not, doesn’t mean you’re not on the right track. If you’re surrounded by people who genuinely want the best for you, they’re probably rooting for you at every stage in your life. If you have people who make you feel like you’re behind in life, first, get rid of them, then go read my friendship post, here.

Sometimes, 26 sounds old to me, but then I realize how incredibly young that still is. I’m honestly still doing stupid shit that doesn’t surprise me one bit, but I don’t care if you’re 26, 46 or 96, there are still mistakes to be made, growing to be done and that’s okay. Sometimes misery loves company and for whatever insane reason, it does make you feel better to know there are people who don’t have it together (even though they may look like it). I thought about creating this long post with tips and tricks and podcasts to listen to or books to read to help you navigate being an adult. But honestly, I definitely don’t know and I think the best advice I’ve ever gotten was from a professor of mine and she told me “Fake it till you make it”. Well, I’ve been doing that since 2015 and it’s still going okay!! Honestly, you’ll figure it out trust me.

Is this making sense? Is this making you feel better? I don’t know, I didn’t say I was an expert, probably quite the opposite since I just told you how much I don’t have my shit together. I literally don’t care, I’m doing the best I can and I may be broke but you know what? I’m happy and feel free to venmo me @Byanca-ellul.

love you & I hope 2020 is good to you.

xx
B