You don’t like the unknown. You like control, you like having a set plan, you want to know what’s going to happen, when it’s going to happen and how it’s going to happen.
Okay, maybe this is a little dramatic, but I bet a lot of you think this way. My life has not turned out the exact way I thought it was going too. I had a certain plan for myself when I was 18 and moved away to college and that definitely changed.
Was I glad at the time? Absolutely not, I was freaking out, I felt like I was wrong for not knowing exactly what I wanted to do. Honestly, sometimes, I would just try to not think of certain things because I didn’t want my mind to wonder and change my plans.
But a very small portion of myself kept it together. As much as I hated saying it, I knew that what was meant for me will come and if I didn’t get something I wanted, then obviously something else was in store.
Change is a wonderful thing. One of my worst nightmares now is being stuck in the same routine for the rest of my life. Change sometimes comes unexpectedly, but this is where we learn to step outside of our comfort zones and grow and challenge ourselves in ways we probably would have never thought of. You’re also forced to see things in a different way, which is so important. There’s always another approach to a situation, KEEP AN OPEN MIND, it makes change so much easier to accept.
Whenever I feel overwhelmed by a lot of change, I make a list. A mental or physical one, and think of tiny things within that situation that I can complete and check off of my list. It makes me more productive towards working in the direction of where I want to be, and calms me down honestly.
While you’re making that list, think of the things that are within your realm of control. Deal with those things. Sometimes people/situations/problems will happen how they are going to happen and you can’t change that. Once I started thinking this way, it was much easier to let things go and accept situations in my life.
I used to hold onto a lot of situations that I couldn’t control. I used to ask myself why is this person acting like a dummy, why do they not see how great they are, why aren’t they listening to me or why isn’t something happening like it’s supposed too (in my mind)????
But, having to change has helped me deal with different people and predicaments that have come in and out of my life.
What is it exactly about change that scares you?
Change is a part of life and I hope you embrace it instead of fight it.